Why you should care

Because if working in porn was easy, they wouldn’t call it working. 

Porn star.” Way overused these days. Just because you shot a video of yourself on your cellphone having sex and got 1,000 views on Pornhub doesn’t make you any kind of “star.” So, just to be clear: I never called myself a porn star.

I did have a No. 1 DVD for my adult film company, 3-Vision Entertainment. But let me explain: I live in a conservative town where the belief is you only have sex to reproduce. And then only in the missionary position which, if the woman finds herself enjoying it? Well, you’re doing it wrong. Welcome to the Outer Banks, North Carolina, where everybody sins, as a church lady once told me, but I, apparently, sin the “loudest.”

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You’re either in the right place or very much the wrong one.

Source Photo courtesy of David Derby

But I enjoyed being promiscuous when I was single. I was also a pro fighter, so I was in shape and, well, you know, as a boxer, you get good by repetition — muscle memory — and comfortable by practicing. My coach once told me you had to do a technique 10,000 times before you had it down. With me, sex was no different: practice and communication. And I got good, just like fighting, even if I was nervous for my first few sexual encounters on film, making me probably the only guy in adult film that’ll admit that.

How or why I started is probably weird or unique though. When I was growing up, masturbation was frowned upon. I was also probably a little delayed physically — I didn’t get hair under my arms or down there until I was like 30 — and I went to prison when I was 18. I had also been raised by Puerto Rican women, so prison was really the first time to learn anything from men. I didn’t like it.

Mi abuela used to say that women attributed the way a man dances or the way he fights to the way he makes love. Most men I knew, the tough-guy types, would say only homosexuals danced. I think abuela was right on the dancing thing though.

But I started by taking pictures of me and my partners. Then video. The porn I was in was the only porn I wanted. I didn’t want fantasy, I wanted reality. I didn’t want strange. I liked women I was with. So I ended up having about 13 girls who would video with me all the time. It’s what they now call amateur POV, or point of view. Most of the time, just one of us held the camera. I liked them looking at themselves, putting their best show on.

I put all the best stuff on a DVD and called it DOD’s Greatest Hits. DOD was my boxing name: Do or Die. The girls loved it. I liked it. Not for public viewing. Just for us. But someone put the video up on local cable. Unfair to me and the women. We didn’t consent to this. I contacted them and while they gave no explanation, they took it down. We made only about 15 DVDs, but who knows? Someone may have made extra copies.

Anyway, I never received a dime from it, but a producer heard about me — an MMA fighter/porn star — and contacted me. As a fighter, I fought to defend myself, not to become a champion. But I found a way to make money from a hobby. I guess it was the same with sex. In total, though, outside of the ones I’d already done, I’ve probably shot about 24 scenes.

So many people — dudes mostly — think it’s easy. But you have a roomful of people, from the director, video guy, photographer, lights and makeup, and you’re trying to keep an erection and “act” like you’re into the scene — one of the actresses I worked with was a lesbian but she was a great hetero performer, and you’re trying to please your partner or yourself.

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Knocking blocks and socks off.

Source Photo courtesy of David Derby/Mary Nicole Photography

Meanwhile, people around you are thinking camera angles, stopping and starting you so they can take still photos. I mean, my first professional experience, I got pink from the bright lights being so close. Plus sometimes, you have boyfriends and girlfriends on the set and there are jealousy issues. And really, you’re doing something intimate with someone who you don’t really know that much about.

But a scene is six positions at six minutes apiece. Guys get about $250 per scene, and ladies are making about $800 per scene. So you also have to be in shape to do few scenes a day.

When I opened my gym, although I had already shot scenes years earlier, it came out right away. A hater confronted me all flipped out: “I saw your tattoos!”

I said, “Bro, I don’t know,” because I hadn’t seen it. “I don’t look at porn though. Also, I never said I don’t DO porn. But if you’ve seen it, it was me … and?”

Just because you shot a video of yourself on your cellphone having sex and got 1,000 views on Pornhub doesn’t make you any kind of “star.”

But I never understood the pushback. It’s totally legal. I also get negativity from people about diseases, but when you’re working, you have to be tested every three months. Blood tests too. You also have to be sober. You have to sign a release. You have a better chance of catching a disease on a Friday night having a drunken, mistake-filled one-night stand.

So I was getting paid for shit people do for free all the time, religious or not. But I knew a stripper who was denied custody of her kids because of her work. I was shocked. She was a good mom who made $100,000 a year LEGALLY!

People always ask me how I would feel if my kids were to see it, and I say, “My kids don’t look at porn.” But look, they know Dad wasn’t perfect. That I’ve been to prison, lost fights in the ring, the cage, whatever. I have seven kids, so I used to say I had sex seven times, but I can’t pull that joke anymore.

Something you should know though: I think my scenes were successful because we had a female director. She told me, “Men don’t buy porn, they watch it free on the internet. Women buy.” So we geared toward women. No angry name calling, lots of kissing — you know, reality.

But so many people like sex and so many — almost always behind the scenes — give me high-fives for my adult video stuff. When the cops seized my phone a few years ago, they probably were shocked to find out who was in there: CIA, FBI, SBI, UFC, politicians and female porn stars and strippers.

A preacher once asked me, “Derby, is it true …?”

“Jesus loves porn stars too, Father!”

“Yes, he does!”

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