Bringing Sexy Back
WHY YOU SHOULD CARE
Because birds do it, bees do it, and we do it.
Good news for pretty crooners: Your voice is good for seduction, and not just on phone-sex lines. There’s about a 75 percent correlation between the people we think sound pretty and the ones who turn out to look pretty, too. Bad news for online dating? Yes. Scientists are beginning to discover just how closely linked voice and attraction may be. Among other things, recent studies suggest that men generally prefer women with higher-pitched voices, and women like their men with lower-pitched voices — though not too low. And, hey, it helps if they’re saying nice things.
Don’t we all deserve a little progress-pump before we hit the pillows? Drugs like Viagra and Cialis treat impotence by increasing blood flow to the penis, which creates an erection. But libido is more complex in women. Besides physical arousal, psychological factors — such as emotional well-being and the quality of the relationship with their partner — play a big role. So scientists are developing drugs that also act on brain signaling. A company called Emotional Brain is testing two pills: Lybrido and Lybridos. The first targets women who have more trouble getting physically aroused, while the second is meant to treat those whose primary struggle is experiencing psychological desire. Both are designed to modify the balance between dopamine, the brain chemical that promotes pleasure, and serotonin, which fosters self-control. Good news for all.
Drop your Fifty Shades. This is way. Way. Hotter. Not so long ago, the existence of a woman’s private sex life was debatable. That is until 1973, when Nancy Friday’s unabashedly erotic tome My Secret Garden forever transformed the unmentionable “prurient interests” of women into a legitimate female interest in the prurient. My Secret Garden wasn’t a novel, and it wasn’t a Kinsey-esque report; it was, without question, the first of its type and remains one of a kind. Beginning with her Unitas fantasy, Friday went on to compile the fantasies of other women (identified only by their first names), allowing them to speak in their own voices about their untold sexual mind games, the steamy nature of which makes Fifty Shades read like Good Housekeeping.