When the French Take Politics Into the Bedroom
WHY YOU SHOULD CARE
Would you really have sex with someone who disagrees with you about politics?
By Fiona Zublin
One of the best things about 2017 not being an election year in the U.S. is the cessation of all those stories about couples fighting over voting for different candidates. Still waiting for the one that explains how Kim Kardashian, a Clinton supporter, reconciled Kanye West’s favorable comments about Donald Trump, by the way. But not everyone is letting politics get in the way of knocking berets. In fact …
88 percent of French people on the extreme left say they wouldn’t date someone with whom they disagree politically. But that number drops to 59 percent for the extreme right.
So much for the tolerant left. Meanwhile, among the general population, 62 percent say they wouldn’t bang it out with a member of the National Front, while only 52 percent would say no to a member of the extreme left. The survey, conducted by French libertine dating site Wyylde, went much deeper, though, and found that ideals don’t always translate to reality and about 80 percent of respondents had partnered at some point with someone they didn’t agree with politically.
To be sure, even in these divisive and tumultuous times, there are other things to think about. Location is key to dating, says Shannon Ong, CEO of dating app the Catch, which allows female users to ask men detailed questions and communicate only with those who give satisfactory answers. So deeply red and blue states tend to presort people politically anyway. “Millennials aren’t so much left or right,” Ong says, but they do focus on issues, like abortion, that can be deal breakers and are highly politicized. Rarely do people on the Catch go for political questions.
Maybe they don’t want to know. A full 9 percent of respondents to the Wyylde survey didn’t know their own spouse’s political leanings, and 29 percent said they didn’t know whom their spouse planned to vote for in May’s presidential election. If you’re going for an ideologically dissonant relationship, the numbers say, they’re overrepresented among centrists, the young — who don’t know any better — and in relationships that have lasted less than a year. Maybe it’s harder for such couplings to survive an election.