Is Marriage Obsolete? We Asked, You Answered

Is Marriage Obsolete? We Asked, You Answered

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Welcome to Third Rail With OZY, a new TV show presented by OZY and WGBH, where we debate provocative hot topics with experts and celebrities every Friday night. The subject of last week’s show was “Is Marriage Obsolete?” You answered, and here are your thoughts, edited for clarity.

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John Morris

Marriage is not necessarily obsolete, but certainly overrated. It’s all about the relationship between two people — you can have a great relationship without a marriage, but you can’t have a marriage without a great relationship (which is where it seems so many couples are today).

Allen Lance, Las Vegas

Marriage isn’t dead. Commitment and loyalty are.

Cindy Olson, Minneapolis

My God, this is depressing! Marriage is a linkage of one’s life with another person and provides a number of benefits, including companionship, of course, but also division of labor, pooling of assets, functional support and another person to help love and support children! I’m not saying life without marriage is not worthwhile or that people should feel incomplete without it, but I think it makes life easier and more pleasant. A lot of people are going to be headed for a cold and lonely old age, I predict!

Eric Klinenberg, Third Rail With OZY Guest

Benjamin Emeribe

Marriage is not obsolete. You trump up [divorce] statistics of so-called celebrities who are chasing unbridled pleasure and therefore see singleness as the only way to achieve their desire in immoral life. Just because Angelina Jolie is a public figure does not make her divorce representative of the whole mass. Marriages are taking place all the time in more numbers than among failed celebs.

Dr. Jennifer Rhodes

Denise Burri-Dolbashian, New York City

Children need the stability of having two parents to flourish and grow.

Kurt Bardella, Third Rail With OZY Guest

Barb Wells

There is something about sex inside marriage only, and it has nothing to do with society. It has to do with morality and God’s blessing.

Colleen Weber Garrett, Philadelphia

Marriage is dead because women do not need to feel subservient anymore. They are taking their power and taking care of themselves. They are whole and don’t need to find their “other half.”

Grayson Daniels

Marriage is not dead. It shows the percentage of people who care more about others than themselves.

Chefonda Caldwell

Roger Mehus

Wrong question! Marriage depends on our definition, understanding and communication of love! Communication in general is the real issue. “Irreconcilable differences” are driven by dysfunctional communication. Love is not difficult; communication is difficult!

Diana Staresinic-Deane, Kansas

Margarita Elena McAuliffe, San Antonio

Now that women can support themselves, marriage is obsolete. It was never really about “love”; it’s about economics and paternal lineage.

Tony Tonie, Harare, Zimbabwe

Marriage is simple, but we make it complicated. Trust, communication, faith and compromise, easy as 1-2-3.

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